Since my second son started secondly school September last year, I felt a bit lost.
Both of my boys ( elder one is in Year 9 now) starting to have more independent life and I guess I have to learn back off to give them a space. well, so my husband says.
IT'S HARD.
In my head I understand the importance. Its our job to give them much possible guidance but decision have to be theirs. If they makes any errors, we are here to support and hope they don't make same mistakes. Having said that, nothing in this life is classed as mistake. We are living in the world of continuous decision making and its consequences. Some are easy and welcomed, some are not. I just hope when they face some difficult decision making, they have enough knowledge to think through the consequences from different angles and most importantly, strength to live with it.
Anyhow, last 15 years or so I was around my boys like 24/7, always available for them ( in my eyes so I should) but it its time give myself something else to do in order to sort myself out. I have number of things need to be done which I didn't do. My excuses were " I have boys to look after". This need to be changed.
So I decided, I make change this year, as my boys became "part" independent, I will be independent, more active for my own things and put some effort in and very importantly, keep records! (witch I am not very good at!)
... I applied job as a Invisilator at kid's school and got accepted. That's the start, surely!
